Monday Musings: My Friend P

I consider P my closest friend. In some ways P understands me better than my husband G.

Whenever I am faced with any type of trouble that G can’t help me with, I go running to P. Talking with P always makes me feel better because he is able to get to the core of what is bothering me and gives me options on how to get myself out of it. Best of all P has never judged me or anyone else for that matter.

This past Friday, G and I went to P & T’s place for dinner. The previous day, both of us were unable to come to a resolution about an important issue. At first I debated on whether or not I wanted to burden P because his plate is extremely full. But I couldn’t hold it in told G to explain the entire situation. P did not give us an answer. Better than that he asked the questions which lead me to the right answer.

Some of my close female friends have asked why don’t I go to them. I say because they will be biased in my favor in any argument if it involves G. Whereas with P, I know that he is completely impartial, completely logical, and quite possibly the smartest person I know (This one is up in the air though as I may just not know others as well as I know P).

I have grown to respect P more and more over the years. Part of the reason is due to the way P & T are raising their kids. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I am not a kid person. And truth to be told I didn’t start liking P & T’s kids until they could actually carry on a sensible conversation. But that is not what draws me to their kids, A1(7-year-old) & A2(5-year-old).

It is because both A1 & A2 are extremely good natured. Even though we see them maybe 3 times a year, whenever we do see them A1 & A2 would come running up to us with hugs and kisses without any prompt from their parents. When it is time for us to leave they always present us with something to remember them by. My favorite is the painting of a neckless giraffe which is currently hanging on my fridge.  Additionally I also get a kiss and a big hug.

Furthermore A1 & A2 are not addicted to the smartphones, ipads, tv’s, or video games! Instead they are the kids that loves board games, going to playgrounds, and making stuff with their hands. To do this in this in our society today, I know how much of an effort and sacrifice P & T had to make. The dark circles under P’s eyes tells the story.

And despite that, P still makes time for my problems. It makes me feel that I have won the friendship lottery. So thanks P! Here is to many more decades of friendship.

Meals 3/16-3/22

I am scared to weigh myself this week so no updates on that regard. I will assume that I am 5-8lbs over my ideal weight. I ate out too much this week. Not only that I stuffed myself from leftovers that my Uncle Yan gave me. Seven full sized portions … [Continue reading]

Meals 3/09-3/15

I have gained 2lbs! I blame it on eating out twice this week plus eating at my Uncle Yan's. He spends so much effort cooking that I would be terribly rude not to eat. And even though G and I both stuffed ourselves, he complains that we have eaten … [Continue reading]

Monday Musings 3/16/2015: Gut Renovations, Granite Countertops, Spa Bathrooms, & Stainless Steel Appliances

I did the the gut renovation dance 5 times. My ex-boyfriend's, my parent's old apartment (the one G and I currently live in), G and I's apartment (we sold it when we moved to HK), G's parent's apartment, and my parent's new apartment. All were … [Continue reading]

Changing of The Seasons


This has been a brutally cold winter. And yet so very beautiful with all the snow. I complain about the cold often and wear two pairs of pants consistently in the wintertime. However, I could never imagine myself living longterm in a place without … [Continue reading]

Monday Musings: I Don’t Like Owning Things

I own very little things. All my personal possessions can comfortably fit in a mini-van. And I have zero desire to own more. I know and understand that the dream for many is home ownership. But it is not mine because it signifies duty and … [Continue reading]

Monday Musings 3/2/2015: Cooking and Meal Plan

Food. I spend so much time on it. Eating, cooking, writing, and thinking about it. I have developed a very picky palate over the years and it is hard for me to eat simply. I remember watching a friend cook up four turkey patties one night and state … [Continue reading]

Monday Musing 2/23/2015: My Love of Food

I love food. But the pursuit of delicious food takes a huge amount of time. Whether it is the travel time plus waiting time to get your food at a restaurant. To food shopping, prepping, cooking, and cleaning after a home cooked meal. Good food … [Continue reading]

The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: End Results

If you bought Marie Kondo's book for an exact game plan on how to organize all your stuff, you will be disappointed. If you have a spouse or kids, you will be disappointed as she does not address those issues at all. And if you have a lot of … [Continue reading]

Monday Musings 02/16/15: On being a tomboy and what I consider hardworking.

Did you celebrate Valentine's Day? I didn't and never have. Not that I am against the holiday. I just don't like eating at restaurants when it is crowded. Nor do I like flowers all that much. Or chocolates, or candy, or jewelry for that matter … [Continue reading]